If you’re unaware, OkCupid is a free online dating site.. one on which I’ve had a profile for the last few years. I rather quickly started making use of the “Hide” feature when I came across profiles of gals that I wasn’t interested in so that I wouldn’t click on them again and waste everyone’s time. One day, I came across a section in the settings where the list of hidden profiles can be viewed, and I started counting – 25 profiles per full-page made it a simple multiplication problem. Over time, I hit different milestones and shared them with my friends: 500, 1,000, 1,500, 5,000.
So now, here I am at 10,000 hidden profiles on my OkCupid account… and I thought that was a number worth sharing with the Internet. The majority of these profiles are from gals who aren’t Christian (or, who claim to be, but either list themselves as “not too serious about it” or later answer that they’re okay with things like having sex on the first date). Some of the ladies had no interest in kids, or drank alcohol too much. Most of them, if they passed these initial checks, were hidden after answering too many (or very important) compatibility answers in direct opposition to what I’m looking for. Occasionally, it was for lesser things, like having tattoos or loving 50 Shades of Grey, and sometimes it was just because I didn’t find them attractive.
I’m not the first person to hit this number, and I’m sure there are those who are much higher than me. I could imagine a person getting to this point and feeling discouraged, but through my time on this site I had my first proper date and I made a couple of new friends – and I’ve sure learned a good bit about myself along the way. Oh, and lest I be unclear, for all of my profile-hiding, I actually do send out messages from time to time, too ;). Most of the time, I don’t get a response, and since I’m still a single man, you can surmise that the messages I HAVE received haven’t really led anywhere. But, hey… I’m a 31-year-old man who only found his career-path in the last couple of years, so I’m content to wait for good things… even if they take a while to come about :).